Relationship Psychology
If you understand why we fight, you’ll never be at a loss for what a character could say.
Notions about how to make or break a relationship fly around endlessly, but Julie and John Gottman have empirical proof of the actions that people take to build a strong bond, and which actions will rip people apart.
Their research shows that 69% of the problems two people have are persistent and cannot be changed. That means that even the most enlightened among us will still strongly disagree on what matters in life.
This is your opportunity as a writer, to create characters who move beyond cheap bickering, and instead showcase the actual conundrum of humanity:
How in the hell are we going to have anyone in our lives when it turns out no one is perfect for us? How can we love in spite of our painful differences?